Miownlil'way (four)

The Fourth...

" When a man commits a mistake, he often looks for a symphatizer, instead of a solution."

Come on,aren't we all like that? It's normal to look for someone who'd listen and understand. The hard part is accepting the truth,the reality. That's when making the solution to the problem.Or to the committed sin.People tend to look for someone like himself or even worse to justify what he did.

" Not every challenge is worth pursuing."

I have or should i say, you have always heard the phrase "I want challenge". It is one way of a man to prove to himself how worthy it is to get through one big obstacle and what a relief it is to overcome that.But in this particular thing, i want to emphasize on RELATIONSHIP. We often hear from men that they wanted to be challenged in getting the girl of their dreams and vise versa. They love the feel of getting hurt/rejected many times and then win in the end. But as i observed this to many failed marriages...THIS WAS REALLY THE CAUSE! Though not in general...but oh believe me,those who fail in the marriage/relationship department...are the ones who's got mates who are VERY HARD TO PLEASE AND VERY HARD TO GET. Sounds familiar? You'd hear men who's got extra marital affairs..."oh my wife is very hard to please...oh my wife wont do this for me..she doesnt like to please me in bed,blah,blah,blah!" You'd hear women..."oh i did everything for him. he doesn't seem to be satisfied.blah,blah,blah!" Come to think of it,why do we want to challenge ourselves if we can have things easy? Why do we punish ourselves in getting it the hard way when there's an easy access? Why do we insist on someone who doesn't give a damn for us? Are we made as "masochists"? One who finds pleasure in pain? If one person is so very hard to please and very hard to get..rest assured...he/she will be one tough person to deal with..think twice before your marriage will get in trouble. It will cost you a lifetime.

"Being arrogant is a very effective way to alienate people,bruise powerful egos and put a big black mark on your reputation. It's okay to feel proud of yourself, but not when it's at the expense of others. Be humble and nurture harmony."- anonymous

I absolutely agree with this. Being arrogant is somewhat like a defense mechanism. It serves as a protection(mistakenly) by someone who never wanted to get hurt and belittle by others. It's like bullying.It's not good,because we will not win friendship and harmony by being arrogant.ong>